18 July 2008
I strongly believes that everything must go 2-ways. just like a traffic. just like the sun and the moon. for a relationship to work successfully, everything must go 2-ways also.
treat unto others what you want others to treat unto you. familiar?
let me tell you one story. it's about this guy by the name of Edwin Soo and Michelle. this story is about a very, very failed relationship.
Edwin and Michelle started off as frens. they ended up together because they were both heart-broken by their ex gf and bf respectively, and were having this stupid idea of helping each other to get out of the depression period. so they ended up together.
Edwin is demanding, controlling and wants face alot. Michelle has no lack of guys around her and she enjoys the attention that she got. Edwin can't stand Michelle hanging out with guys all the times, and always pick a quarrel with Michelle just because she hangs out with guys alot. Edwin is rich and he loves to use money to bribe Michelle to make promises.
the difference between Michelle and Edwin is that Michelle used to be a wild party girl and Edwin is an old man tho' he's only 20, he behaves like a 40. After they got together, Michelle let Edwin knows most of her frens and family members. whereas, Edwin doesn't let Michelle knows his family members or frens. When Edwin could not reach Michelle, he would call her cousin, Louis. Michelle thought that Louis would cover up for her when she's not home. BUT, one fine day, Louis changed. instead of becoming Michelle's fren, he became Edwin's fren. Louis BETRAYED Michelle. how bad is that when she's the one facing Louis everyday? How could she trust him again?
Edwin just want Michelle to stay home everyday and not contact any guys and not hang out with any guys. Michelle doesn't like being controlled. But Edwin loves controlling. Michelle changed herself for Edwin, but when she asked Edwin to change for her, he agreed BUT, he did not take any actions to change for her! Seeing Edwin not changing, not sticking to his promises, she was pissed off with him and slowly, she changed her ways of treating him too. Not changing, not sticking to promises. Honestly, it's alright, am i right? Since he did not uphold his words, it's alright for Michelle to not uphold to her words too right?
Since day 1 that they have been together, they had been quarrelling. Mental concern is so much more better than Materials concern. Would you exchange Branded goods to Mental concern? Would you rather you get Branded goods and mental stress and lead an unhappy life to not getting branded goods, having mentally cared for and lead a happy life. Which would you prefer?
Edwin wants Michelle to make him happy. Agreeing to everything he says and doing everything that he said. But he did not do things that Michelle wants him to do, even if he did, he took a really long time. Edwin controlled her till she has no space for breathing whereas, she did not control Edwin at all. so tell me, is this a 1 way relationship or 2 way?12:19